Creating safe boundaries is a work in progress. It takes time to recognize our limits, trust our instincts, and understand that our time and peace are valuable. Some days, saying no feels easy; other days, we may still feel the need to explain ourselves. But each time we choose honesty, self-respect, and peace, we grow stronger. Healthy boundaries remind us that protecting ourselves is not selfish; it is part of recognizing our worth.
The Lesson I Didn’t Ask For
Growth does not always arrive together with laughter and sunlight. Sometimes it slips in slowly, through the ache of certain hopes that never found their way home, those disappointments that create ripples in your heart, and change the view right outside your window.
Heartache has a way of taking off those rose-colored glasses we once wore without thinking. Suddenly, the world looks different; it’s sharper but also more honest. It stings that new clarity, but sometimes it’s the only way we learn to see ourselves and others as we truly are.
There comes a still moment when you realize the ground beneath you has shifted, and there is no path going back to the way things were. The innocence may have slipped away, but in its place comes a kinder wisdom, a gentle strength, and a clearer sense of what your heart can hold and what it finally must let go.
And while I may not see the world quite the same way these days, over the past two years, I have grown into someone a little wiser, a little stronger, and someone more willing to trust the truth when it finally knocks on my door. Heartache did not close me off from the life I’ve built; it opened my eyes, steadied my spirit, and taught me to offer myself the same kindness I would give to someone I love.
One Sip at a Time
Becoming Her
I have always loved favorite memes because they can say so much with just a few words and a simple image. They often capture exactly how we feel in a way that makes us laugh, think, or feel understood. When I read this prompt, I decided to create one of my own, using words that reflect the woman I am becoming. I like this meme because it reminds me that I am growing stronger every day. I am learning to trust myself, protect my peace, and honor the woman I fought so hard to become.
Freckles, Fire, and Friendship
One fall afternoon, I walked through the halls of Chipman Middle School in Alameda, California, still adjusting to the strange new world of junior high. I liked the freedom of changing classes, but there were moments when those crowded hallways made me feel small. I was still trying to find my place in this new chapter of my life.
One September afternoon, I thought it would be just another typical day until a new student marched into our room and took our class by surprise. I didn’t know then, but I was about to meet my lifelong buddy.
After lunch, we went to Mrs. Westmoreland’s class; she taught sixth-grade language arts. While we were settling in, I sat in my assigned spot, second desk from the front. The room smelled like sharpened pencils, old books, and the faint dust from the chalkboard. Outside the classroom door, the hallway still carried the noise from our lunch break, but inside, everything paused when a new girl walked into our classroom.
Everyone instantly became quiet. She had long brunette hair that had red highlights, and it was curly. She also had quite a few freckles that I would later find out she absolutely hated. She was also short and petite, but that didn’t stop her from standing up for herself. I would soon discover that this half pint was quite feisty, a human tornado that could create devastation at a moment’s notice.
As Mrs. Westmoreland walked up to her, she took the paperwork from the girl’s outstretched hand. “Take a seat,” The teacher motioned towards the empty desk that was right next to mine.
Barb’s eyes met mine, and we both smiled at each other before she took her seat. As she started to settle in, I noticed that she had the biggest pencil ever! It was thicker than a normal pencil, and longer, too. I remember thinking that it must be awkward to use, but in middle school, we enjoyed quirky school supplies, and that pencil definitely fit the bill.
After lunch, our teacher usually had us read for a few minutes. This was my favorite activity of the day. The class was silently reading when Mrs. Westmoreland explained that she would be “right back.”
Of course, as soon as she left, the quiet class became quite rowdy as everyone began talking at once. Before I could talk to the new girl, the class bully, Donald, started teasing her.
“Hey, Freckles,” he called.
I glanced at Barb. She sat up straighter in her chair and tried to ignore the disgusting boy. But he wouldn’t stop.
He grinned and hollered, “Hey Freckles! Do you think you have enough…freckles?” He laughed, and a few of the other boys joined in, following his taunting like it was some kind of invitation.
At that moment, Barb jumped from her seat. We could tell by the look on her face that she was furious. She glared at Donald and screeched, “I hate you!” She grasped her huge pencil in her hand, and I watched in wondrous horror as she broke it over dumb Donald’s head.
Time slowed to a crawl, and my heart raced. More than once, I had been on the receiving end of Donald’s threats and torment, and I worried about retaliation.
But instead, the class terror looked stunned as if he could not believe what had just taken place. And I smiled, acknowledging that finally someone had stood up to the biggest bully in the sixth-grade class.
Everyone was utterly quiet for a single moment until my classmates started shouting, laughing, and talking all at once! Donald just took a beat down from a girl half his size! Everyone was astonished.
Of course, Mrs. Westmoreland walked into class as Barb stood in front of the class, clearly upset. Donald was red-faced and rubbed the knot on his dumb noggin. Quickly, we settled down and pretended to read once again, but all twenty-some pairs of eyes focused on the unfolding scene at the front of the classroom.
Barb slowly walked to her desk and quietly took her seat. Still nursing his head and his wounded pride, Donald sat grimly and tight-lipped. He was probably trying to hatch some type of revenge on how to get even with the girl who just schooled him about making fun of others.
Mrs. Westmoreland knew something was up in her classroom, but she did not say a word. Although our teacher kept a sharp lookout, no one said a word about ole Donny’s suddenly diminished reputation. Too many of us had been on the receiving end of his bullying, and secretly, we were all rooting for the new girl.
Barb looked at me, and I smiled, for I knew I had just met someone extra special! This tiny tornado taught the whole class a lesson that day. Dim-witted Donald D. wasn’t quite as scary as we had thought. And his days as the school villain had just gone down in flames.
In an instant, my own fears dissolved; I finally saw Donald for who he really was, just a kid with a big mouth and zero gumption.
From that day on, Barb and I were pretty much inseparable. We spent our childhood years growing together and creating a friendship that has lasted a lifetime.
Over the years, Barb became more than the girl who sat beside me in language arts. She became the friend who could make me laugh when I wanted to cry, tell me the truth when I needed to hear it, and remind me that courage sometimes comes in the smallest, sassiest packages.
Oh, and the best part? That feisty friend of mine has not changed one bit. She is still spirited, sassy, loyal, and full of fire. And after more than fifty years of friendship, I can honestly say I am grateful some things never change.
Finding My Way Home: A New Chapter in Family Stories
Book Two: Tales of a Family: Finding My Way Home
Book Two of Tales of a Family continues the journey through memory, family history, and the stories that shape who we are. This collection gathers more treasured moments, old photographs, family voices, and reflections from the past, weaving them together with love, humor, heartache, and gratitude. From the people who came before us to the memories we carry forward, this book is a celebration of roots, resilience, and the quiet beauty of finding our way home through story.
My goal is to have it complete by the end of the summer…
September
Some songs just have a way of changing the mood of a room, and for me, that song is “September” by Earth, Wind and Fire. From the moment I hear the tempo, it feels joyful, light, and full of energy. No matter the day I am having, it puts a smile on my face. And in no time at all, my feet are tapping to the music while I sway in my seat.
It takes me back to high school, a time filled with friends, memories, and school dances. It offers joyful expectations and reminds us of life’s best days. And when it played during lunch, everyone jumped up and moved.
“September” just has that entertaining beat, and when it plays, no one can just sit still. It’s light-hearted and fun, and the perfect song for any celebration.
This song will never fade into the background, and this is one of those songs that just pulls this grammie onto the dance floor, time and time again. No matter how many years pass, “September” still knows how to make my heart dance.
Mom and Mo
Tucked behind a front yard teeming with plants and a sweet pea vine that covered the chain-link fence stood my mom’s little house. Her yard was filled with lively colors and the soft sounds of birds chirping. Between the scent of her flowers and the neighbor’s pine tree, stepping into her yard was warm and inviting.
To reach her front porch, visitors crossed a cute little bridge that made the house almost feel like a storybook cottage. Her yard was full of life, with plants, birds, and an apple tree that offered shade, blossoms, and eventually a little trouble.
The trouble came in the form of one spoiled squirrel that I called Mo. He was determined to become a professional birdseed thief. Mama had a bird feeder in her front yard that sat high upon a pole, and Mo was determined that he would eventually pull off the perfect heist. He spent endless hours trying to reach his loot; he stretched, leaped, slipped, jumped, and plotted, but no matter how hard he tried, he never made it to the top of the bird feeder, even though he tried every trick a squirrel could possibly imagine.
Mo’s failed little acrobatics became a daily comedy show and a source of entertainment. Mama, resting in her easy chair, watched him from the living room window as Mo schemed and scrambled. His antics brought hours of smiles; he became a familiar rhythm to her day, a tiny comic performer in her front yard.
Mama always had a soft spot for critters that crossed her path, and after watching him struggle, she decided to help her little neighbor in his time of need. On her front porch, she had stair-step shelves that sat right under her large front window. Among her plants, she added a clay plant saucer, brimming with birdseed, tucking it between her potted flowers.
That was all the encouragement Mo required. What started as a simple act of kindness quickly became a daily routine.
Before long, that cheeky little guy acted as if the porch belonged to him.
Our newest and sassiest family member decided the saucer wasn’t just a gift; it was a special act of service meant just for him. When the bowl was empty, he would climb the steps, scrambling between the plants, moving right up to the front window. If he did not see his benefactor, the brazen little guy would actually knock on the window until he got her attention, like he was placing an order at his favorite diner. Once she peeked out her window, he would shake his tail, loudly chatter about his lack of provisions, and stare at her as if to say, “Excuse me, lady, you need to fill my bowl.”
And of course, she met his growing demands and fed him, but I’m sure Mo never doubted her.
Over time, Mama and Mo developed the sweetest little friendship. Sometimes she began leaving the front door open, and Mo would come close enough to eat right out of her hand. What started as a squirrel’s failed attempt to raid a birdfeeder turned into one of those small, memorable tales that make a house feel like a home.
Mo may not have conquered the birdfeeder, but he certainly conquered my Mama’s heart. In his own tiny way, he reminded my Mama that friendship can show up in the most unexpected ways, sometimes with a quivering tail, tiny paws, and a very demanding appetite.
Ten Years of Stories: A Fresh New Chapter
This year marks a special milestone for Tales of a Family: Finding My Way Home—ten years of gathering stories, honoring memories, and finding my way back through the people and places that shaped me. What began as a simple desire to preserve family history has grown into a beautiful journey of writing, remembering, healing, and connecting with others who believe our stories matter. To celebrate this anniversary, I have given the blog a fresh new look that feels more like home: softer, warmer, and filled with the same heart, heritage, and storytelling spirit that inspired it from the beginning. I hope this updated space invites you to linger, read, remember, and maybe even begin writing a few stories of your own.
The Man I Remembered
This week’s writing prompt invites us to pause and remember a man who left an imprint on our hearts. He may have been a father, grandfather, uncle, brother, neighbor, teacher, or family friend—someone whose words, actions, humor, kindness, or quiet strength still live in our memories. Sometimes the men we remember most are not remembered for grand gestures, but for the way they showed up, worked hard, loved their people, and taught us something about life without even knowing it.
Prompt: The Man I Remember
Write about a man who influenced your life. What do you remember most about him?
Please join in the writing and share your stories in the comments or link them here. Your memory may help honor someone whose story deserves to live on.










