Weathered

I always sort of swooned at the sight of the classic barn structures in central and northern Minnesota, where everything seemed rustic and weathered and made to age gracefully.

–Richard Dean Anderson

When walking through old towns, the weathered buildings and board sidewalks offer a glimpse into a time when life seemed slower and easier.  Often I wonder if I were born about a century to late…

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No, Not That One

In the summer of 1956, in the quiet farming town of Delta, Colorado, a young woman named Dotty Allen stood at the bus stop, her heart heavy with emotion. She blinked back tears, reluctant to leave the warmth of her parents’ embrace and return to her life in California. Her vacation had ended too soon, and she longed for just a little more time at home.

A small crowd gathered at the station, waiting for the bus that would carry them westward. Dotty’s parents stood close, offering reassuring smiles, though they, too, felt the weight of the impending farewell. She braced herself for the long journey back to Oakland, where she worked as a telephone operator, connecting voices across the miles while feeling increasingly disconnected from the family she loved.

As the bus rumbled up to the curb, hissing to a stop, her mother nudged her gently and pointed. A group of young soldiers in crisp dress greens lined up to board, their pressed uniforms and polished boots a stark contrast to the dusty station platform.

“Oh, I would sit by that one,” her mother said, nodding toward a tall soldier with dark hair and warm brown eyes that sparkled when he smiled.

Dotty wrinkled her nose, shaking her head. “Umm… no, not that one. I think I’ll sit by that one,” she replied, motioning toward another young man standing nearby.

Her father chuckled, exchanging a knowing glance with his wife. “Your mother’s right. I believe you should sit by that fella.”

Passengers began to shuffle forward, handing their tickets to the driver. Dotty lingered, reluctant to take that final step onto the bus. She clung to these last moments with her parents, memorizing the way her mother’s eyes crinkled when she smiled, the scent of her father’s worn flannel shirt as he hugged her one last time.

With a deep breath, she turned and climbed aboard.

The door shut behind her with a finality that made her throat tighten. As the bus lurched forward, she quickly scanned the aisle for an empty seat, her vision blurred by unshed tears. She barely noticed when a soldier stood and reached for her suitcase, lifting it effortlessly into the overhead bin.

“You can have the window seat,” he offered, his voice warm and gentle.

Still dabbing her eyes with a handkerchief, Dotty slid into the seat he had offered. It wasn’t until she glanced up that she realized—with a mixture of amusement and surprise—that she had unknowingly taken the very seat her mother had suggested. The handsome soldier with the kind eyes smiled at her, seemingly unaware of the small twist of fate that had placed them side by side.

Her father smiled from the platform. Her mother chuckled. Dotty had unwittingly chosen the man they had both nudged her toward.

As the bus pulled away, Dotty gave a final wave, clutching the soldier’s handkerchief in her hands. At first, she remained quiet, lost in thought. But the soldier was patient, making gentle attempts at conversation. Eventually, she responded, and they began to talk. His name was Harold Reeder, and he was also heading to California, returning to his military base.

By the time they arrived, something unspoken had passed between them—a spark, a connection. In the weeks and months that followed, letters crossed between them, their friendship deepening with every exchange.

A year later, Harold found the courage to propose. He didn’t have money for a traditional ring, but that didn’t stop him. Instead, he presented Dotty with something even more meaningful: a simple copper charm, once a penny, flattened and smoothed into an oval. Stamped onto its surface was the Lord’s Prayer—a testament to his love, resourcefulness, and devotion.

He gave it to her before he was stationed in Anchorage, Alaska.

While Harold was away, Dotty continued working at the telephone company, her fingers deftly connecting calls while her heart remained tethered to the young soldier miles away. She wore the copper charm close, a tangible reminder of the promise he had made.

Four years after their meeting, on May 27, 1960, Dotty and Harold were married in Alameda, California. True to his word, Harold later bought her a beautiful engagement ring and a matching diamond band. But no matter how lovely the rings were, nothing could replace the sentimental value of that small copper charm.

Their life together took them to various places—first Alameda, then Fort Lewis in Seattle, Washington, Colorado, and then back to Alameda. They built a home filled with laughter, love, and the stories that would one day be passed down to their children.

Among the many treasured keepsakes in our family, two stand out: the copper charm and Harold’s dog tags. Time has darkened the metal, but the significance remains untarnished. These small tokens, once a promise between two young hearts, are now heirlooms—a testament to a love story that began with a simple bus ride and a mother’s gentle nudge.

The photos captures a moment in time: my parents, Dotty Allen Reeder and Harold Reeder, standing with me on Roger’s Mesa at my grandparents’ ranch. Two months after I was born, we moved to Hotchkiss, Colorado, when my dad was stationed at Fort Carson.

And still, among my most cherished treasures, are that copper charm and those dog tags—symbols of the love that brought our family into being.

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Dorothy Marie Allen and Harold LeRoy Reeder

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May 28, 1960 – Oakland Tribune
 
 
 
 
 
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Looking Back: A Review of 2017

Earlier this week, I read a blog from a cherished fellow blogger, Jeanne Bryan Insalaco.  On her site, Everyone Has a Story, she included a year end review of her writing experiences for 2017.  She included the information from another genealogist that invited readers to write about their discoveries.  Once I read the two blogs, I wanted to share my adventures too.  I have provided the original link from Jill Ball.

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Santa’s Blunder

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My favorite reindeer – Jaxon 2017
 

Santa’s Blunder

December 2017

Earlier this month, my daughter and I managed to squeeze in a mother-daughter chat—something that can be quite tricky given her busy schedule of raising seven children. Despite the chaos of daily life, we have always tried to connect at least once a week, with extra calls sprinkled in between, along with messages and photos exchanged over Facebook to help bridge the miles. Though she moved back to Colorado, about 200 miles still separate us, making these conversations all the more precious.

During our call, Leslie shared a story about my grandson Jaxon’s visit with Santa. The three-year-old had approached the jolly old elf with wide-eyed anticipation, only for his excitement to dissolve into disappointment.

“What’s wrong, buddy?” Leslie had asked him after they left Santa’s workshop.

Jaxon’s little shoulders slumped, and he sighed dramatically. “Santa said he’s bringing me candy for Christmas.”

Leslie furrowed her brow. “But you love candy!”

Jaxon shook his head. “If I want candy, you can get it for me. I really just wanted a Santa Spiderman hat.”

That was the real tragedy. His old Santa hat—his beloved favorite—had lost the furry pom-pom, and he had his heart set on a replacement. And in his three-year-old mind, Santa had completely missed the mark.

As I listened to to the tale of my grandson’s disappointment, I couldn’t help but chuckle, remembering a similar moment from Leslie’s own childhood—a moment that my mother never let Santa live down.

1984 – The Year Santa Came Up Short

It was the height of the Cabbage Patch craze. Stores were swarmed, parents were frantic, and securing one of those beloved dolls was akin to winning the lottery. And, of course, my three-year-old had her heart set on one.

That December, I took Leslie to visit Santa at a local store in Cañon City, Colorado. She was the picture of Christmas sweetness in a red velvet dress with delicate white lace trim, white tights, and shiny black Mary Janes. Her blonde curls framed her face, and I could barely contain my excitement as I watched her approach Santa’s chair.

When it was finally her turn, Leslie marched right up to Santa with all the confidence in the world. The jolly old man hoisted her onto his lap, his twinkling eyes meeting hers as he asked, “And what would you like for Christmas, little one?”

Without hesitation, Leslie flashed a dazzling smile and declared, “I want a Cabbage Patch Doll!”

And that’s where things went downhill.

Santa’s voice faltered. He cleared his throat and stammered, “Well… um… the elves at the North Pole have been really busy this year, and… uh… we’re not sure if there will be enough dolls for every little girl and boy.”

Leslie’s smile vanished.

Her little body stiffened.

Then, with a dramatic sigh that only a three-year-old could muster, she slid off Santa’s lap, placed her hands on her hips, and announced, “Well, never mind. I already told my Grammie what I wanted for Christmas.”

And with that, she spun on her heel and stomped away, leaving Santa speechless and the entire line of waiting parents chuckling in her wake.

Santa leaned toward me and whispered, “I sure hope her grandma has one.”

I could only nod, though deep down, I was skeptical. Cabbage Patch Dolls were impossible to find, and the thought of my mother managing to snag one seemed like a long shot.

But as fate would have it, that afternoon, Leslie and I made a stop at Grammie’s house.

With all the enthusiasm of a pint-sized storyteller, Leslie recounted her visit with Santa, complete with her disappointment over his lack of doll-related certainty. My mother listened intently, her eyes twinkling with amusement as Leslie huffed about Santa’s shortcomings.

As soon as Leslie ran off to play with her uncles, my mom motioned for me to follow her into her bedroom. Closing the door behind us, she walked over to her closet, pulled out a large shopping bag, and—with the biggest grin—revealed a Cabbage Patch Doll with blonde hair, identical to the one Leslie had dreamed of.

Grammie had done it. She had beaten Santa. And, oh, was she pleased with herself.

Come Christmas, Leslie unwrapped that doll with sheer delight, oblivious to the months-long hunt that had taken place behind the scenes. The following year, when I asked if she wanted to visit Santa again, she politely shook her head.

“No thanks,” she said matter-of-factly. “I already told my Grammie what I wanted.”

And just like that, my mother cemented her status as the reigning Christmas champion.

From that year forward, she never let anyone—including Santa—forget that she had outdone the man in red himself.

And as for Sarah…

The legendary Cabbage Patch Doll, named Sarah, has survived decades of moves, childhood adventures, and years of being loved. Today, she resides “somewhere” in Leslie’s home, a relic of the Christmas when Santa fell short, but Grammie saved the day.